Wednesday, December 07, 2005

Angst - an epidemic

Poor old Patroclus suffered such a crisis this week that she scared the bejesus out of us by hiding her blog. There's been a lot of it about recently - people deleting blogs, people falling out in cyberspace, people nearly-getting-dooced. And it sort of got me thinking - although the media is full of hype about the millions and billions and squillions of bloggers out there peddling their musings and ramblings and rantings, the blogosphere tends to hang around in sort of clumps and can be rather cramped, at times. I know I have a corner of it that I consider my "patch" - people I drop in on, people who drop in on me, and at times it can almost feel as if we all really know each other (which can be dangerous in itself - unless someone chooses to reveal themselves as they truly are, this is surely the best medium there could possibly be for self-reinvention?). And I sort of got to thinking that this is what it should be about. About just sort of mucking about with your mates, building little communities, or even spreading good-humoured bile among like-minded curmudgeons. So that's what I'm going to try and concentrate on, and not get bogged down in obsessing about my stats, or my popularity, or the bloody fucking ecosystem, or how many links I've got, or who I should or shouldn't link to, and why I should care if someone I've never met and am never likely to meet might disagree with me or call me names. Yeah, it's the way forward!! Are you with me, people?!!

*clicks back to Sitemeter to work out whether this month will generate more hits than November*

Bugger. Carry on.

27 Comments:

Blogger GreatSheElephant chimed in with...

yeah.

Still don't want any of those rightwing wierdos to win the competition Kellycat mentioned though (how the fuck do I do links in comments? I'm so thick, I really am).

Actually this reminds me of the best slogan t-shirt I've seen all century. 3 garden gnomes and the slogan 'Hangin' with my gnomies'

07 December, 2005 11:59  
Anonymous other half chimed in with...

I'm with you my love. I don't give a fuck what people think...even people I know...so I'm going to care even less what people I don't know think.

Your's is the only opinion I truly value. If you are secure in your own beliefs then a blog is somehwere to share them free from any worries of criticism or contradictory opnion simply because it's your domain.

07 December, 2005 12:02  
Blogger surly girl chimed in with...

oh lord, the curse of me strikes again - patroclus has gone again....

07 December, 2005 12:13  
Blogger GreatSheElephant chimed in with...

I don't think that was your fault surly. Might have been mine though partially

07 December, 2005 12:21  
Blogger surly girl chimed in with...

see - that's what i was getting at - it's a bloody minefield and i'm not sure any of us can remember why we started the bloody things in the first place...

07 December, 2005 12:24  
Blogger GreatSheElephant chimed in with...

I started mine in an effort to make money

hah

07 December, 2005 12:25  
Blogger Kellycat chimed in with...

I started a blog to get things off my chest, which is still true to some extent, but sometimes I wonder if I'm blogging just to make myself look busy at work...

07 December, 2005 12:28  
Blogger Urban Chick chimed in with...

right on, sista!

yes, i was about to say that P's blog had done a disappearing act again

worried (really) - just as i worried when GSE went on holiday for a week and DIDN'T TELL ME

i mean!

i was so worried, i went looking for her in another realm of cyberspace so she probably thinks i am a stalker

*dashes off to see whether have moved up a notch in TTLB*

07 December, 2005 13:26  
Blogger patroclus chimed in with...

Yeah, right on, sisters! Let us not obsess about the bloody fucking ecosystem! The bloody fucking ecosystem will do just fine on its own without us obsessing about it!

Blog's back now, btw. I'll try not to go all wibbly again.

07 December, 2005 14:18  
Blogger Cleavers chimed in with...

I'm fully on board with your sentiments, Surly Girl. My philosophy is that as long as I'm not intentionally hurting/offending anyone, then my blog is for me to use in any way I wish.

Usually to let my mum see just how drunk I can get. I think she's glad she doesn't get the drunken phone calls any more - even I am aware that there is a time difference issue.

:-)

07 December, 2005 14:26  
Blogger nope chimed in with...

I didn't start the blogging thing until just very recently. I used to think it belonged to the realm of teenagers. Luckily, I have been able to find bloggers of all ages, and generally gravitate toward those blogs of the older generation. I guess I'm lucky in that I fully realize there are billions of bloggers, no way to make money off them unless you are famous (then why do you want the money?), and who cares how many hits I get - that's not why I started blogging. I wanted a bit of cyberspace that didn't involve newsgroups and incessant arguing. I generally write for an audience of one, whether that's me or somebody else. And I'm satisfied with that - as a long time writer I've realized that it only takes one ...

07 December, 2005 14:41  
Blogger Tabby Rabbit chimed in with...

It's not *that* different is it though? It's like being in a pub. There are people on the table next to you and they might hear some comments but generally they want to stay with folks on their table. If they know one or two of you on your table they might wander up and say hello. And the conversation changes beyond recognition if your parents/employer/etc happen to turn up and sit next to you.

Okay, so there's less booze involved (well, not always); and it's written down so anyone can come and have a glance. I'll shut up now.

07 December, 2005 15:02  
Blogger Lee chimed in with...

No, it's a fair point. Or at least one with high-lights.

It is a struggle to try and remember why you do your blog in the first place, as soon as you get a little popular, or your stats suddenly drop. Just carry on, these things should be for you, not with anyone else in mind.

07 December, 2005 15:17  
Blogger Pashmina chimed in with...

Thanks Surly, you've just neatly summarised what I've been trying to explain for - ooh ages - to non-blogging types about blog circles. Except I kept banging on about venn diagrams rather than "patches", which may be why I've been having so much trouble...

07 December, 2005 15:57  
Blogger LC chimed in with...

Blimey. Can't we all just sort of, you know: "Get over it"? Blogging's fun - none of us use our blogs for anything particularly serious, it's just a bit of gossiping and piss-taking. And perhaps also a neat way of gravitating towards other like-minded people on the interweb. Stop taking it all so damned seriously.

07 December, 2005 16:02  
Blogger surly girl chimed in with...

that's what i said!! let's make it all fun and sparkly again....

07 December, 2005 16:09  
Blogger Lee chimed in with...

> Let's make it all fun and sparkly again....

I've got the glitter spray!

As ever.

07 December, 2005 16:15  
Blogger Inexplicable DeVice chimed in with...

I agree. With all of you.

I started mine to "let rip the creative juices" and have failed miserably. However, I just get carried away with flitting about, catching up with gossip, drinking with you all (I imagine you to be sitting demurely at your respective Demon Boxes, a glass of sauvignon blanc perched on top) - Shit. I'm sounding like a stalker! Anyway, I'm having fun. In your words, SG "Carry On".

WV: geyrzfg - drunk talk for Gay as Fuck!

07 December, 2005 16:57  
Blogger Whinger chimed in with...

I have come to this same conclusion, mainly because of the HORRIBLE comments the "popular" bloggers receive. I prefer a happy place where people NICELY take the piss out of one another and the Anonymous commenters don't feel like they have right to take aim at you on public property.

Can't we all just get along?

07 December, 2005 17:06  
Blogger Betty chimed in with...

I don't know if it's a case of getting together with like minded people as far as I'm concerned, because everyone else is younger than me, more middle class than me, better educated, more affluent, better read, has more interesting stuff to say ... which could be why my stats and numbers of comments are never anything to write home about, heh heh.

07 December, 2005 17:53  
Blogger mig bardsley chimed in with...

Oh I'm with you. But only because I enjoy reading your blog. Otherwise I would cerrtainly have got myself a stats coounter by now (Oh, well before this morning anyway) and checked out that flappy birdy microscope bug thingy (before last night).
Got to go and check up a few stats now.

07 December, 2005 19:25  
Blogger Juggling Mother chimed in with...

I know alot of people started blogging as a way of getting published - so I can understand them wanting lots of readers & nice comments.

Personaly I blog to dump all my rage & anger out of my life & into an anonymous world. I love getting comments because I naturally like to argue - so don't care if they don't agree with me - although I don't see the point of personal insults & delete those.

it is easy to get caught up in the stat thing & even more in the TTLB - but I know that's just my natural competitiveness. I can keep it under control. Honest:-) Although I do have a natural tendancy to lecture people too, so maybe thats whats behind my wish for more readers & more comments:-)

07 December, 2005 20:06  
Blogger garfer chimed in with...

Blogging consists of numerous. overlapping groups. I get quite (but not very) excited when someone new comments.

07 December, 2005 20:31  
Blogger Perry Neeham chimed in with...

You're right Surly. First, I only started to think WHY am I writing this after I started blogging (how crap can you be, huh?). Second, I still don't know why. Third, except I've cybermet a couple of people I would dearly love to get piossed with.

The latter being about the highest praise in my theosaurus.

07 December, 2005 20:43  
Blogger Perry Neeham chimed in with...

Oooops! That should be pished.

07 December, 2005 20:46  
Blogger Kyahgirl chimed in with...

I love coming to your blog to hear the chit chat, the bile, the moaning, the laughing, etc.
I had my own blog crisis, its passed on. Keep on blogging miss surly!

*settles in by the fire with a pint*

08 December, 2005 01:07  
Blogger Make Tea Not War chimed in with...

First time commenting here. I hope you will be gentle. I enjoyed blogging more once I just deleted the counter thingy. I found myself compulsively checking it in the months I had one and feeling pathetically rejected everytime anyone only stayed for a second (Why!?! Why don't they like me?!? What am I doing wrong?!? ) so I decided not to care and deleted it. I delibrately try just to blog about what I feel like rather than trying to please my imagined a(nd possibly imaginary audience) and, the fact that as a consequence I've made a connection. however tenuous, with one or two like minds is an unexpected bonus.

17 December, 2005 06:50  

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